There’s this thing that happens with chronic hip pain. Over time, it’s not so physical anymore and it becomes an energetic problem. It doesn’t have anything to do with your stiff hip joint, bursitis, previous sciatica or low back pain. At this point, it has everything to do with the inability to connect to your center of feeling. You’ve seemed to try everything, even acupuncture and the pain persists. Pain medication isn’t the answer. You can’t put your finger on it because no one taught us how to connect our life experiences to our physical bodies. But I’m beginning to gain hope. We are on the horizon of healing emotional pain through the physical body. We are starting to see the importance of the body-mind connection.
Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life highlights mental thoughts and how they form physical experiences. Our Emotional Pain Chart lays it out beautifully! In her book, the hip is represented by fear of going forward in major decisions or nothing to move forward to in life. We unknowingly remain stuck and fearful in our own bodies, which makes me think of comedian Darrell Hammond’s documentary I recently watched, Cracked Up. Darrell stated, “the issue’s in the tissues” and his life unfortunately proves it. Our mind really does have considerable impact on our human frame. Add severe Adverse Childhood Experiences to the recipe and you’ve got a concoction greater than musculoskeletal pain, you’ll begin to suffer greater systemic physiological problems. The pain associated with choice and what it costs our lives has its consequences.
As a physical and energetic therapist, my body detective archetype kicks in, and I do a light investigation of the musculoskeletal system and a thorough spiritual analysis. I gather my data through the tone of one’s voice, their natural postural habits, and their perspective on life. I’m interested in the way they tell their life story, the key players involved, and how they interact within their relationships. For hip pain, I want to particularly know the relationship with their parents and the roots of their ancestors. I’m interested in their life’s desires, their relationship with sex and intimacy or lack there of. And last, but not least, I want to know if they are holding any unresolved pelvic trauma.
My goal is to redirect them on their life path. Immediately.
By the time I evaluate the longstanding hip pain, the client has limited mobility, an overall decrease in the use of the hip and painful suffering while weightbearing. It’s affecting their daily life and most certainly has taken a toll on their freedom. The heaviness of the leg breeds sadness and flickers of depression typically enter one’s mind. What we don’t realize is that the sadness has been sandwiched between shame and anger for quite awhile. The intellectual form of the body is searching for understanding, lesson and purpose through dormant emotions.
One of the major emotions that, I believe, sits deep in the capsule of the hip is desire. What do you want in life? What’s next? Empty nesters? What are you craving? How has life changed and what do you need to change in yourself? Perhaps a major decision affects your family or your career fearing you into what will (someone or) everyone think about you? As Anais Nin said, “and the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” Pain wells up and we become bitter because we can’t find the courage to carry out life the way we hold in our mind.
The right side of the body represents the masculine as the left side represents the feminine energy body. More specifically, the right hip represents the father and the left hip represents the mother in your life. What unfinished business do you have with your parents? Have you said all you need to say before they depart(ed) this life? As for left hip problems, it could be issues with a woman in your life where you don’t feel loved by her because you’re lacking intimate connection from your mother in childhood – maybe you think you need to leave your marriage but the problem is lack of personal intimacy and security in the relationship that roots back up the maternal line for reasons out of our control, but our responsibility to heal. The body doesn’t lie. Even if you think you are over the pain, there might be more to mend. Physical pain is emotional pain.
Our hips carry the heaviness of childhood as well as our parent’s young lives. We feel disconnected from our core and often have the tendency to numb our emotions, we feel defeated and yearning to feel lighter and feel lifted once again.
My initial treatment typically begins on the table where I work on the hip from a physical perspective using joint and soft tissue mobilization. I’m searching for a pain-free pattern so their mind can find a glimmer of hope. I usually have them lay supine on a small Pilates barrel with knees bent and slightly turned in so their hips can sit deeply in the sockets. The position is often uncomfortable and my purpose so they can make a connection with the pain and what it could be representing. I encourage to reframe the thought into a positive manner and release the emotion. I have them gently rock their legs side to side to move through that free range of motion allowing the client to establish a positive pelvic bowl of energy and start to dissolve the depression that’s been draining their soul.
And this is where I begin my energetic treatment. I assist in cutting cords that they’ve been tethered too, whether it’s people or things in their lives that no longer serve a purpose. The body craves this type of healing because the emotional experiences, which have been stuffed down, surface to release the pain. I find that it illuminates the soul. And, it leaves an indelible imprint that heals generational wounds in the pelvis and rebirths a new direction in life, one with more passion and purpose.
It’s time to open up and release the pain.
Stu Dchreiber says:
This seems very relevant to me and my present hip issue. I’m 63, haven’t manifested the career I was most planning nor any alternative career, at least not in the sense of generating income. I have no kids and have been divorced for about 15 months from my first and only wife (of 27 years).